The illusion of equality in relationships disappears when one member is pregnant. There is no equal carrying of the burden, no matter how the work is divided up. Usually, it’s up to the pregnant person to take on a lot of research: learning about doctors and doulas and birth plans, on top of the physical toll that may make work extra hard. Sometimes the non-pregnant person does more of that work, but that can be complicated, because it’s still one person’s body at stake here, and their choices are what should matter.
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The illusion of equality in relationships disappears when one member is pregnant. There is no equal carrying of the burden, no matter how the work is divided up. Usually, it’s up to the pregnant person to take on a lot of research: learning about doctors and doulas and birth plans, on top of the physical toll that may make work extra hard. Sometimes the non-pregnant person does more of that work, but that can be complicated, because it’s still one person’s body at stake here, and their choices are what should matter.